Grief is the Normal and Natural Reaction to Loss

including Death, Divorce, Loss of Health, and more

Grief can show up following a death, divorce, illness, injury, or any number of other losses.  You may…

• feel drained of energy
• feel alone in your pain
• experience emotional pain over the loss
• have unfinished emotional business over the loss
• think that there doesn’t seem to be a future because of your loss
• need to take action to feel in control of your life again
• be protecting yourself by not expressing your feelings
• realize that time hasn’t healed any wounds
• worry that you might be going crazy

Experiencing these feelings does NOT mean you are going crazy, but you may benefit from talking to someone to help you make sense of things, someone who will “walk beside you” during the process of grieving, to help you move beyond the pain.

There are over 40 losses which can produce the range of emotions we call grief. The long list includes:

• Death of a loved one
• Divorce or end of a relationships
• Major financial changes
• Loss of health
• and so many more

Grief is normal and natural, but many of the ideas we have been taught about dealing with grief are not helpful, for example:

• Don’t feel bad
• Replace the loss
• Grieve alone
• Don’t feel bad
• Time heals all wounds
• Just keep busy

Just looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who have waited 10, 20, 30, and 40 years and still didn’t feel better. We know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.

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 Everything you may be feeling in reaction to a loss is normal and natural. You are not broken, and you do not need to be fixed. Reconciling your grief consists of a series of specific action steps which are designed to help you discover and complete your undelivered emotional communications about a loss. In other words, you get to work on your unfinished business.

This website provides suggestions for those specific actions and recommends products to help you integrate the losses you have experience and begin to find healing, transformation, and wellness in your life.

 Sue Hasker ~ Grief & Loss Wellness Coach

Certified Grief Recovery® Specialist
Certified New Life Story® Wellness Coach
Certified Performing Edge® Consultant

www.GriefWell.com

healing. transformation. wellness.